This month I have been busy helping my clients to adjust and cope well with change.
There are many things that can make life feel uncertain, the cost-of-living crisis and so many other global challenges being a major stressor for many people right now, coping with any change can be especially challenging.
While we can’t control what happens outside of our own lives and actions, we can control how we respond to change and any associated uncertainty. We’ll all react differently to change. Sometimes we can be hard on ourselves when things don’t go as we planned or hoped – in these moments it’s important to be patient with ourselves. We can also look at building our resilience to cope better with whatever comes our way. Here at IC therapies, we can help you adjust and cope with change using evidence-based treatment approaches like CBT or IPT
Here are some ideas that you may find helpful.
Acknowledge how you feel
It’s normal to experience feelings like anxiety, stress, sadness and anger when our normal way of life has been challenged. Allowing ourselves to fully feel our emotional reaction helps us to understand and process what’s happening, and to move forward.
Recognise what’s out of your control
Accepting when there’s nothing you could do to influence the outcome can help you to handle your disappointment and frustration. Focus on making plans in the areas of life that you know you can control whether that’s starting a new hobby, discovering more activities you can do with the family, deciding what to watch on TV, or listing the books you want to read.
If you’re anxious, test your assumptions
In Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), we teach exercises that encourage people to change the relationship they have with their thoughts, which enables them to manage their feelings better.If you’re worried about the uncertainty that lies ahead and believe that you won’t be able to manage well if life is shaken up because of this unknown, try doing something that has an uncertain outcome and see how you get on. For example, what would happen if you switched from your favourite brand of cereal to another? Why don’t you try getting the bus instead of the train? How about ordering something completely different from your local takeaway? The message your brain will receive is that you can deal with uncertainty.
Challenge negative thoughts
Examine your negative thoughts and beliefs and ask yourself if they are accurate to the situation you are currently in. Remember, challenging negative thoughts takes time and practice. Be patient with yourself and don’t give up if you don’t see immediate results.
Resist the temptation to constantly check the news
Although you may feel like you need to be updated with the newest information on what’s happening around the world, make sure you’re taking breaks from the news cycle. When our minds are flooded with negative stories, this can increase our stress and anxiety levels, particularly if the events covered are distressing or personally relevant.
Be kind to yourself
Despite everything that’s happening around you, it’s important to treat yourself with compassion, understanding and care, just as you would your loved ones. This is something that can be easily forgotten, but it’s important that you practice self-care to help maintain good mental health and overall well-being.
You can find out more about how CBT or IPT helps us to manage our feelings and adjust to change by contacting IC Therapies.
